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"The sage manages affairs without doing anything, and conveys his instructions without the use of speech." - Lao Tzu

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August 7, 2008

Love is the Key

As you know, I just migrated my website from one URL to another. During this process, I took the opportunity to clean up some code and consequently read a lot of my old posts.

There’s a lot there! Sometimes I was really angry and quite offensive. I think the web personality in general is conducive to being offensive and I hope people know that. Just look at the type of sites that are popular on the web, everything has a blog or forum that’s filled with venomous complaints. Do we really sink down to something less civilized when take on anonymity? I know I do, but what does that say?

Is the internet a filter for the ego and superego; a channel for the id? Was H.G. Wells predicting internet personality in his Invisible Man? I don’t want to make a grand point because that would be unlike my internet persona, but I kind of feel that maybe love is the key. Or as John Lennon would say: the answer.

“Love is the answer, and you know that for sure
Love is the flower, you got to let it, you got to let it grow”

“So keep on playing those mind games forever,
Doing the ritual dance in the sun
Millions of mind guerillas
Putting their soul power to the karmic wheel”

I was shopping for scooters the other day and the scooter shop was really busy. I had to wait a few minutes and the shop is small so I couldn’t kill the time inside. I decided I’d take a look around see what interested me. Across the street was one of those new Smart ForTwos so I looked at all the storefronts and guessed which one would own a Smart.

I know that many of you are already passing judgment, because you have some kind of bias against the Smart, but I really like them. Mostly I was curious about them from an engineering point of view; I’m always thinking about how to get better gas mileage, hence my being at the scooter shop.

I guessed that this little art boutique was the most likely place and I went in to find out. “That’s not your Smart car out there is it?” I asked the woman in the shop. “Why yes it is” she replied with a surprised smile.

We continued to make small talk about the environment, my new job, her winning an art contest, saving the world and everything until I figured I should head out and look at the scooters. I politely excused myself and went back to the scooter shop to pick out my new ride.

Meanwhile, the artist shopkeeper made me a great little gift basket and carried it over to the scooter place to give it to me. She was so nice; I had one of those canvas bags and a coffee mug and some buttons and stuff including a post card with a handwritten note.

The funny thing is that she’s left me in a karmic bind because now I have to do something exceptionally kind for someone else and that’s not easy to do. Everything I think of could be regarded with me having personal gain as a motivation, especially if you consider getting out of the karmic bind as personal gain.

As a first step, I’m linking my column to her website and giving her a plug. Her name is Gail Pender Cain and she’s got a little shop on White Oak. It’s not the sort of thing I usually link to and maybe that makes it more interesting; certainly it makes this site more eclectic. I know some of you will die when you see it, which also makes me happy (see how even when I try to do good, I find joy in hurting others).

You can find info on the artist at or you can check out the store online at